A woman of privilege; thoughts about growing up racist.

Racism was a family value during my childhood and adolescence; it was both subtle and overt. My history is ugly; it is my heritage, my burden to carry, to acknowledge, and to let go. During his time working for the Sinclair Oil Company in Portuguese West Africa (now Angola) from 1920 to 1924, my maternal.. read more →

The other side of the coin.

My beloved grandfather lived alone for 17 years after he was widowed. My daughter and I were his only close family as his last sibling had died a decade earlier, and he was estranged from his only child, my mother. His regular social activity was at the IRS, where he worked part-time after finding retirement,.. read more →

Thoughts about daughters

Two blessed girl babies have graced my life, emerging from my body into the world. They have triggered in me the emotions only a parent can feel: worry, pride, joy, fury, bafflement, anguish, comfort, amusement, wonder, frustration, vulnerability, fear; above, below and through it all, was, is and will be LOVE. They are both infinitely.. read more →

How she got her smeller back.

After the accident, her broken nose did heal. It looked unchanged but worked differently, having lost its sense of smell. Once in a great while, the faintest whiffs of memory would waft by. One time, she got a flash of the smell of damp woods while walking with someone who described all the sensations to.. read more →

Keeping the fun going with homeopathy.

I just got home from a vacation in the Garden of Eden, where my scholarship is to be the camp nurse.  The garden of which I speak is Southern Week at Ashokan, a music and dance camp where 160 people live together in a wonderful community for a week. We are fed healthy, locally grown,.. read more →

“Don’t break your neck jumping to conclusions.”

I can not count the number of times my mother, father, and grandparents said this to me. I have vowed countless times to heed; yet I still have the instant reaction to a perception that often turns out to be wrong, twice already today before noon! The first instance was reacting to a document that.. read more →